The phenomena called “DAR” or “FEAR”
A few days back, Shashwat, my 9 year old son, came to me and said “Mummy I don’t want to be alone in my room, I am scared, please come and sit with me”. I tried to explain him that there was nothing to be scared of and there was no one else around him, other than himself but he refused to understand and I had to finally give up explaining him.
Later when I was sitting by myself I started to wonder, Why was Shashwat scared? What was the fear all about? He was in his own house, in his own room, then why..?? But then I recalled, when I was his age, I too felt the similar jittery feeling, if I was left alone, but why??!!
The flavours of fear have changed as we grew up, from not wanting to be alone to -Fear of future-Fear of loosing reputation-Fear of being wrong Etc etc. Innumerous fears bind us, IT’S A LONG LIST and we can carry on and on and on. ..
What is this phenomena called “DAR” or “FEAR” that each of us experience! It would definitely be worth looking into this phenomena because fear can restrict our freedom, isn’t it!
Allow me to share with you an incident with which we could draw an analogy to reflect upon why Shashwat was afraid and also why we may be afraid in life.
The incident was as follows-
It’s a couple of years ago, when we were at our Bangalore Ashram for the Navaratri Pooja. On the last day of the week long Pooja there was Chandi Homa being performed. At the end of the Chandi Homa, Devi (divine energy) was being worshiped in her different forms. Also in form of Animals. Among oth
er Animals who were invited for this ceremony was also Indrani (a female elephant who lives in ashram) .
To everybody’s wonder Indrani who is otherwise a well behaved obedient elephant on entering the Yagya shala (Pooja hall) suddenly became violent and retrieved backwards making a loud sound. She was immediately taken out of Yagya Shala. Everyone was taken aback by this unusual behaviour of Indrani as this had never happened ever before.
Something that no one noticed, Gurudev did (just like he always does), the reason for Indrani’s unusual behaviour. And he immediately asked the camera men to switch off their display screens. And then Indrani was once again called in the Yagya Shala. This time everything went smooth, she was her sweet obedient self again. And the entire Pooja concluded with all the sacred rituals.
But this incident made everyone think, What had happened to Indrani? what was she so fearful about?? No one knew!!!
Later that evening in Satsang Gurudev explained the reason- “Indrani saw her own image on the screen and got scared of her own form” . She had no clue that she was looking at her own self and her majestic form scared her. Yes! An elephant is not aware of his/her own form. They don’t know how big they are. Wow! That can surely be scary, an encounter with oneself, especially when you don’t know how massive you are, isn’t it!!
So could that also mean, that we also experience fear because we don’t know our real self? Because we don’t know how massive we are?
Yes! We are unaware of our real self and that is the basic cause of fear in our lives. If I wasn’t on the spiritual path I would never be able to comprehend this.
As we grow older the flavour of fear changes because now we are grown up and we realise we are stronger than before but only to a limited extend.Because that which we recognise as ourself is limited, the limited gross body only. The body which is inert and perishable we identify with only that and so remain fearful throughout our lives.
Being on the spiritual path can grow us in strength and eliminate the cause of fear. An encounter with the real self and we get to know how magnanimous we are, all kind of fear can vanish from life. It’s when we grow in ‘that’ aspect of us which is indestructible the very reason for fear drops, naturally.
The irony lies in the fact that Indrani would never know how powerful she is and we too can remain ignorant towards our real strength and remain in the shadow of fear, for a lifetime and more.
But there is a sure short way to overcome all fear in life. Meditation can wake us up to the reality of what we really are. And we as humans are gifted to have access to a solution.
In this sense the real growth for Shashwat would be when he discovers himself and wakes up to his own strength. And then he will never feel afraid of being alone anywhere in this world…
And for you!!!
Just for fun!!
You might relate being in one of these situations if you have encountered this ghost called fear-
“Will you marry me”? What if she says no?? My life will be a hell without HER!!!!! OMG
“What if I don’t Pass a second time”? My entire future depends on this one?? How will I show my face to my Parent!!!! OMG
“I have never faced such a big crowd ever before, what if I fumble”? What will they think about me ?? Everyone will laugh at me!!! OMG
MEDITATION is a MEDICATION for CHILAXation! So Meditate and Chilax bhai.. Mountain Dew won’t really help!! ;))
2 thoughts on “The phenomena called “DAR” or “FEAR””
Amazing! 🙂 Such an art to put this into words 🙂
wow Di….such a beautiful piece! 🙂